Preparing for Love
How many times have I been here, I thought. Spring is coming and I am staring down the barrel of another season without a partner. Do I want to get involved in the dating apps again? Am I stuck in a pattern? Why do I keep dating “the same person” over and over? Smart, brilliant, well spoken. And yet, somehow unavailable… distracted, just skimming the surface.
Then I wondered, what if it is NOT them, what if it’s me? That question was the beginning of a new day, a new way. Then Katherine Woodward Thomas came across my screen. And she asked, “What if No One is coming? What if I had to do the work myself? What if I needed to more
deeply explore the message that I was putting out?”
Finding Your Soulmate: Week 1 of Calling in “The One”
The journey to finding your soulmate begins with an essential first step that many of us would rather avoid: developing a deeper relationship with yourself.
Welcome to the first step of the “Calling in The One” journey. What’s different? This transformative process isn’t about searching harder for love—it’s about becoming the person ready to receive it.
Releasing Old Patterns
In this first step, we focus on identifying and releasing the hidden barriers that have been keeping love at a distance. These include examining:
- Lingering attachments to past relationships
- Unconscious commitments to unavailability
- Self-protective patterns that once served you but now limit your capacity for connection
- Stories you tell yourself about why love hasn’t worked in the past
I started to wonder about all of these, but the one that really resonated with me was this idea of self-protective patterns. Didn’t I usually leave first before being left? Didn’t I usually choose men that were safe, not growth oriented? Maybe, though I thought I was stuck in a pattern of
choosing unavailable men, was I myself “unavailable”?
A Simple Practice to Begin
Take five minutes today for this centering meditation:
- Find a comfortable seated position and close your eyes
- Place one hand on your heart
- Take three deep breaths, feeling your chest rise and fall
- Ask yourself: “What am I truly ready to release to make space for love?”
- Notice what arises without judgment
- When thoughts come, simply acknowledge them and return to your breath
- Close by setting an intention to be open to new possibilities in love
Your Week 1 Invitation
What if the love you’ve been seeking has been waiting for you to clear the path? What patterns might you be ready to release?
In your journal, complete this sentence: “I now release my attachment to _______.”
Ready to Go Deeper?
Over the next few months, I am blogging some of the highlights of each step to offer a glimpse into the powerful transformations possible when you commit to this work. You may also want to pick up a copy of the book, “Calling in The One” and read along with me.
If you’re feeling called to truly shift your relationship patterns at their core, I invite you to join me for personalized coaching. Send me a note at in**@***********ng.com to schedule your complimentary 20-minute consultation and discover how we can partner to call in the loving relationship you deserve.
The path to your soulmate begins within. Are you ready to take the first step?
March 2025
Annabella Roig, MS, MPH
Certified Coach, Calling in “The One”